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Courses and individually based sessions in anger management

Discover what makes you feel angry and how to use anger management therapies to overcome this destructive emotion. Manage your anger and take greater control of your life.

Introduction to the nature of anger

Why do I get angry?

Anger is often the result of unfulfilled desires and expectations. If we have an unfulfilled expectation of a person we become angry and upset. The mind creates the expectation and imagines the fulfillment of the expectation. However, when the person or event does not match the expectation a pressure develops within, and the mind becomes angry.

Further, a person may create too many rules by which another person should live by. This leads to conflict when the other person does not act in accordance with the predefined rules. Therefore, this strict rule-making leads to anger and can undermine a relationship.

How do I stop getting so angry?

We need to realize that it's our unfulfilled expectations that make us angry, rather than the other person or event. If we can understand that it's not the other person who is making us angry, but rather our own way of thinking, then we can change and reduce the adverse effects of anger. A motto to use is, 'No one annoys or upsets me, but it's my inability to tolerate or think positively that makes me angry'. So if we have an inability to tolerate, it can be due to unrealistic expectations that we are holding onto.

When we realise that anger is a by-product of our own way of thinking, then we gain the ability to change the way we think. By taking control of our mind we can also then take control of our life. We can take control of our mind by ordering it to have positive thoughts, and to keep determinedly thinking thoughts like 'I will not get angry'. When you feel some negative thoughts building in the mind, use a positive affirmation such as "I am a strong and positive person - there is no benefit in allowing my mind to get angry".

Why do I get angry so often?

We often derive negative thinking patterns from our family, friends, or adolescent and childhood peers. These negative thought patterns become very deeply ingrained in our subconscious and pervade our everyday thinking. We have become very accustomed to them, due to having acquired so many of these negative thought patterns. Thus the tendency to think negatively becomes established early on in life. Consequently, negative thinking becomes like an addiction. Despite our awareness of its adverse effects upon our mental and physical well-being, we are unable to give up this habitual negative trait. But as the saying goes, 'you can make the mind your best friend or your worst enemy'. You have the choice what to do today - so decide to make the mind your friend, and learn and install the habit of seeking out the positive.

COURSES AND INDIVIDUAL COUNSELLING IN ANGER MANAGEMENT

We currently hold ongoing anger management courses in Australian cities or in rural areas by arrangement. The course consists of 8 weekly ninety minute sessions and covers such topics as problem solving, assertiveness, managing angry thoughts, feelings and aggressive impulses. The program is run by a registered Psychologist or equivalently qualified practitioner. A certificate of completion is provided at the end of the course.

Individual counselling is also available. This is particularly helpful with individuals who have specific issues that need attention such as domestic violence or " road rage". Sessions are private and confidential and are conducted by a qualified Psychologist or Psychotherapist. Health rebates are available. For further information contact us on 1300 300 579.

Employment - Work as Psychologist

We are currently looking for qualified Psychologists or Counsellors who specialise in anger management and/or stress management.

Some Positive Quotes from the Anger Management Team

In desperate times we rely on hope to bring us the power to stay cheerful and positive.

When we are alone in our hour of darkness we can be comforted by the hope that light is sure to come as the sun will surely rise.